Is a Potluck Wedding a Thing?

The Potluck Dinner: it's the perfect recipe for a successful meal. The pressure is off the host to clean, cook, and stock the cocktail bar - alleviated by each guest's assigned dish. More people? No problem. The more guests that attend, the more coverage is provided. We all know how they work, but why isn't the potluck model applied to more events... say... weddings?

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Traditionally, the "potluck wedding" would probably be received with hostility and abject dislike because traditionally, the wedding is the sole responsibility of the betrothed couple (and their families') and the guest's sole responsibility is to enjoy the night, eat cake, and bring gifts. The division of labor has been clear for as long as a structured wedding has been the norm.

But the laws of the wedding are changing. 

Dream with us, here. What if you sent out invitations and attached to the RSVP was a sign up sheet for a side dish? Or a bouquet of flowers? Could this be a feasible approach to your big day? 

Say you start with 200 guests. Say... 60 of them are traveling from out of town. That leaves 140 that could easily pick something up in the days leading up to the wedding.

  • 10 people bring a dessert 
  • 20 people bring a bouquet of flowers
  • 20 people bring a side dish
  • 20 people bring bread or salad
  • 20 people bring an appetizer
  • 20 people bring a six-pack (or case) of beer
  • 30 people bring a bottle of wine

Tally it up: You have 20 centerpieces, one for each ten-person table. You have a dessert buffet for guests to satiate their sweet tooth. You have two appetizers, a bread basket, a salad and two side dishes per table. You have enough wine for 120 glasses of wine (if all of your guests are drinkers) and enough beers for... well, for a good time. What's left? A couple cases of champagne for toasts? A couple main dishes? 

What seemed to be an insurmountable task - not only having a large wedding, but making it a potluck - suddenly seems surprisingly doable. Champagne and main dishes will set you back about $500 dollars, a far cry from the $50,000 average most weddings boast. So, why isn't this idea becoming more mainstream? Probably the reason most amazing things stay undiscovered: the ideas aren't talked about, and therefore aren't considered.

Agave Weddings doesn't have a quota to hit with catering partners, we don't benefit from the amount of money you or your family spend. We benefit when your dream is realized. When you marry the love of your life. When you live out your dream day. If that means that someone needs to bring a casserole, so be it.